Hey, I’m Robert Martin Lees

relationship advice that works

You know that feeling when your heart’s beating so loud you swear the whole room can hear it?
That was me the night my relationship ended.

I’m not going to hit you with a psychology textbook or some “5 easy tricks to win them back” promise.
Because the truth is — back then, I was just like you.

Scrolling through my phone at 1am.
Re-reading texts, wondering what I’d done wrong.
Searching “how to get your ex back” like it would magically erase the pain.

My Breaking Point

Everyone told me the usual advice:

  • “Just move on.”
  • “Go out and party.”
  • “They weren’t the one anyway.”

But that wasn’t me.
I didn’t want bandaid advice — I wanted real answers: Why did this happen? Can it be fixed? And if not, how do I actually heal without pretending I’m okay?

That search — messy, confusing, full of mistakes — is what pushed me to start writing, coaching, and, ultimately, building this little corner of the internet called Making Up Magic.

Where I’m Coming From

I’m not your typical “relationship coach.”
No leather chair, no ivory tower degrees.

What I do have is lived experience — breakups that leveled me, reconciliations that taught me trust can be rebuilt, and a burning need to make sure no one else feels like they’re drowning the way I once did.

That’s why my approach is simple:

  • Relief first. Because you can’t think straight when you’re spiraling.
  • Truth over tricks. If you get back together, it should be real — not because of manipulation.
  • Growth always. Whether you reunite or move on, you’ll come out stronger.

My Story (In My Own Words)

This is me, face-to-face, sharing the unfiltered version of my journey. If you’ve ever felt the panic, confusion, and late-night searching — you’ll get this.

Why This Site Exists

MakingUpMagic.info isn’t about rehashing dating hacks.
It’s about you finding clarity and power — whether that ends with a text from your ex, or a text to yourself saying: “I’m finally free.”

I’ll guide you with posts, scripts, quizzes, and little breakthroughs that can ease the storm inside your head.

But more than anything, I want this site to be a place you can land at 2am and feel less alone.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does Robert Martin Lees do as a breakup recovery coach?
I help people calm the panic after heartbreak, understand their ex’s behavior, and decide if reconciliation is truly the right path. My focus is on fast relief first, then long-term growth — whether that means getting back together or moving forward healthier.
Is this coaching just tricks to get an ex back?
No. I don’t believe in gimmicks or manipulation. If you and your ex reconnect, it should be real and mutual — not the result of pretending to be someone you’re not.
Can I actually heal after a breakup, even if we don’t reconcile?
Absolutely. In fact, the process I share is designed to help you feel grounded, confident, and whole no matter the outcome. Healing after a breakup starts with relief and ends with growth.
Who is this site for?
If you’re stuck scrolling late at night, overthinking every text, or googling “how to get your ex back help,” this site is for you. My resources are built for anyone navigating the messy middle between heartbreak and healing.

Let’s Walk This Together

If your heart hurts and you don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place.

Read a post, take the free quiz, jump into a strategy guide — wherever you begin, know that I’m not here as a distant expert, but as someone who’s lived it, healed it, and can walk beside you.

You don’t have to do this alone.